Thoughts On Dealing With Comparison

Thoughts On Dealing With Comparison | A Girl, Obsessed

Today, I wanted to just chat with you guys a bit about a topic that I think we all, as bloggers, have dealt with at one time or another. Comparison is one of those ugly aspects that can come from blogging (and really, being online in general). I don’t think any of us mean for it to happen, but if we’re not careful, we can fall victim very easily.

When we’re so plugged in to what every other person is doing and achieving, it can be really hard not to compare our own lives to theirs. It could be anything – maybe you think they have a cuter blog design than your’s, or perhaps they’ve got more followers or higher stats. Whatever it may be, there are a few things I think we all need to remind ourselves of whenever this happens:

  • No one is perfect, and no one has it all together.
  • Whatever you’re seeing on Instagram and Facebook, it’s likely only 10% of the whole picture.
  • “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” – Jon Acuff
  • Everybody has their own personal struggles that they’re dealing with too.
  • Instead of focusing on what someone else is doing, use that time and effort to create something amazing of your own.
  • “Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Teddy Roosevelt
  • Everyone is capable of creating greatness.
  • There is enough room for all of us to succeed. Just because one person has made it doesn’t me know one else can.
  • Don’t let comparison turn your heart to envy and jealousy.
  • No one’s journey is the same as anyone else’s. We’re all running our own race, and we’ve all started at different times.

I know from experience that comparing yourself and what you do to others in the same field can greatly affect your focus. Instead of using your time and energy to create amazing things, you watch what everyone else is doing and beat yourself up for not being where they’re at. It’s tough not to sometimes, and I’m guilty myself of comparing my blog to those of people who have been at this way longer than I have. It’s a bit silly to think that I’d compare my blog, which just turned 4 years old, to ones that have been going for 8+ years now. Of course they’d be further along ahead of me – they’ve been at it longer. It doesn’t mean what I’m doing is any less, or that I should feel like I’m not enough. When I notice that I’m doing this, I try to stop my train of thought right where it is and remind myself of the points I listed above.

I think this goes for everybody. Don’t tear yourself down by comparing to those around you. Instead, look at all you’ve accomplished, and set goals from there so you can keep moving forward and upwards. 🙂

What are your thoughts on comparison in the blogging world?

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  1. February 20, 2018 / 4:05 pm

    I feel like it’s so hard not to compare yourself with everyone else! You look at people having so much success or happiness in something you’re really struggling with…. but I find it helps to celebrate even the smallest milestone and surround yourself with people who celebrate it with you

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

  2. February 21, 2018 / 4:31 am

    This is so important, but sometimes also so hard to do! I don’t have a hard time with comparison when it comes to blogging, somehow I feel that we all have our own “space” in the blogosphere, but when it comes to family comparing me to others, THAT’S when I have issues not letting it get to me. I guess it is because my family constantly compare me to every single other person they know, which made me super insecure when around them. Even now, at almost 30.

    xo, Rosie //Curvy Life stories

  3. February 21, 2018 / 3:49 pm

    I completely agree with this. I think we all fall a victim to comparison even if we try our hardest not to! Loved what you had to say, and great advice! I haven’t even been blogging properly for a year, so I have tons to learn still, but that’s just how life goes! You get back up and carry on! xx

    http://zoe-ware.blogspot.ca/?m=1

  4. February 22, 2018 / 8:31 am

    I think anyone should read this post and I totally agree with you, it´s such a bad habit of mine to compare myself with others instead of just doing what I want to do. These kind of topic is so interesting and I´m glad you wrote about it, because everytime I think about comparison I can read this and feel better…
    xx Kirsten
    https://www.justcoffeegirl.blogspot.de

  5. February 22, 2018 / 10:04 pm

    This is such an inspiring post as so many people struggle with the idea of comparison for both themselves and others, I think this is something people can read and relate and feel they are beautiful in their own way and that they are not the only ones out there feeling this way, love this Mandy! x
    Love ya girl x

    Maddison Jayne | maddisonjayne.blog/

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