#jennypurrchat encouraged me to write it, so I decide to step outside my comfort zone a bit and get a little more personal here.
My whole life, I’ve been a late bloomer. I’ve never wanted to grow up fast, and have always felt younger than those my age. This never really bothered me much until I graduated high school and started to see the people I’d grown up with begin the next chapters of their lives. For me though, I just didn’t feel ready. I couldn’t even begin to imagine getting married and starting a family in my early twenties. I was still trying to figure out who I was and what I wanted to do with my life (something that I’m navigating even today).
There are a bunch of things that I haven’t experienced yet, and that’s okay. I think social norms have put pressure on young adults to grow up fast and start living certain lives to be accepted as “normal” members of society. We’re expected to move out, start careers, and create families as soon as we hit our twenties, but some of us are just not ready for those life choices right away. I used to feel like I was a bit of an oddball for still living at home, but you know what? I’m completely happy with my living arrangements right now. Why should I feel pressured to change that just because of what others think is normal? Some of us grow slower than others, and we shouldn’t be made to feel badly about that.
I honestly think “so what?” if you still live at home with your parents or you’re 20-something and have no clue what you want to be when you “grow up” or you still don’t feel ready for a long-term relationship yet. It’s your life and you’re allowed to live it however you choose. Basing your choices on what’s “normal” because it’s expected of you is only going to make you miserable. If you’re not ready to take a certain step in your life, know that you don’t have to. There’s no rush. You won’t reach a point in life where you’ve “failed” because you didn’t do things by a certain age. Life can be lived so many different ways. Live yours the way that feels happiest to you.
Anyway to sum it all up, these are just my thoughts on this topic. I mainly wanted to encourage any other late bloomers out there and let them know that they’re not alone and that they don’t have to feel like they have to rush to catch up to everyone else. Live life at your own pace, even if others are passing you by. We can form our own little club at the back of the pack. 🙂